| catch up observation 10/4 |
[Nov. 15th, 2006|04:32 am] |
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This is an observation that led to much depression at one point in my life. The divorce rates have skyrocketed in the last 50 years or so. People now claim they are not happy and need a divorce. Fist why the hell get a divorce to make you happier when most of the time a divorce only leads to more bitterness and sadness. Yes there are cases I support for divorce but in general I see quiet a bit of pointless divorces when all that is needed is a little work. 50 years ago people understood that work is needed to make a marriage work now neither side wants to give an inch. I am not going to pull the masculine bullshit of marriage worked when the women did what ever the man wanted, but it is true, no fights because no one argued with the man of the house. But with the equality of women today fights do occur and it is as if not one family in America wants to work it out they want to leave and find another person to marry until the next fight. That’s not how it’s suppose to happen, if it’s physically or mental abusive, report it and leave, or kill the bastered, either way under those conditions is what divorce was meant for. Now we have grease ball lawyer who can make any thing sound abusive, so no one has to legally stay together. That and the poor upbringing of children has lead to short tempers and no problem solving or compromising skills past a third grade level. That what I see in marriage today; it almost makes me dread getting married for I am not sure I will marry someone who knows how to give and take and just want it all. |
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I think that people who are unhappy will generally be so in or out of a relationship and will often draw people into their lives that will continue the cycle of unhappiness. It's less about whether or not a relationship stays together and more about a personal sense of comfort and fulfillment. | |
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